Win, Lose, or Draw???

Game nights at my house always seem fun and I look forward to the weekend so me and my kids can enjoy a game together.  I don't know how it is that I forget that every game night in the history of game nights at my house end in disaster and someone upset or angry.  My kids are great and they are very competitive but I don't know if you know much about twins but each one of them are convinced their way is the right way not matter what the rules state.  As you can guess the way they are thinking causes nothing but havic and not so much fun at my house on game night.......what was I thinking?  When you think of playing games you think of exciting fun and a great time together, however; there is a game that started for me years ago called separation and divorce that I wish I would have never learned how to play.  Are our children just pawns in this horrific game of battle we play with our ex spouses?  When do we go from acting like children playing a game with their sibling to adults who make unselfish right choices just because it is the right thing to for their children?  There have been many years I have gotten caught up in this game that sucks you in like an addiction. In the midst of it, all you want to do is win but is it really about winning if you are destroying the children you are suppose to love so much?  It is time for the adults in all of these situations to ask themselves the question "Do I want what I want because it is what is best for my children or do I want what I want because it is what is best for me?"  Take time on this journey to evaluate why you do what you do and make sure that your intentions are right and children's best interests are at heart. 

Just a reminder:  That person that you want to cut to the core is the same person that you loved so dearly you wanted to spend forever with.  So, tonight as you are thinking of the next right move to make in the game you are playing put the pieces of the game away and just give each other room to make their way on the journey that they did not expect to be on either.